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产品名称:学会应酬,半生不愁
定价: 29.80元
出版社名称: 南海出版社
出版时间: 2014.11
作者: 马德
产品名称:中国式 场面话大全
定价:29.8元
出版时间: 2014-03-01
作者: 杨百平 主编
场面话,不是打官腔、说假话、放空话、扯废话。场面话不是虚伪的敷衍,而是众人智慧结晶、放之四海而皆准的金玉良言。
说话人人都会,但不见得人人会说话。
所以,你仅仅能说还是不够的,还要会说。
这就需要你掌握场面话的技巧。
场面话”是一种艺术,更是社会大学里的一门学科。它是人际交往中说话办事的**技巧之一,也是一种应酬的技巧和生存的智慧。
本书以“场面话”为主题,详细介绍了在不同场合对不同对象的说话方法与技巧,通过大量贴近生活的事例和精炼的要点,讲述了打动人心的说话细节,以便让您的言辞上升到一个新的层次,并在此基础上感受到拥有上佳口才的迷人魅力,希望为您走向辉煌的人生提供*有效的帮助。
连场面话都说不好!?再会做事也是枉然! Chapter 1 场面上要说场面话
说好场面话是一门艺术 002
想说场面话先要学客套 004
看准场合会说场面话 007
场面话该说时还要说 009
说好场面话获得好人缘 010
先作准备再说话 012
从对方得意的事情说起 015
学会判断场面话 018
投其所好说好场面话 020
用场面话弥补语言上的失误 022
场面话也需慎说 024
Chapter 2 初次见面说对场面话
场面话使初次见面零距离 028
从陌生到熟悉就这么简单 030
用嘴上的点金术让陌生人成为朋友 032
沟通伊始,恰当地称呼他人很重要 034
真诚的问候是一见如故的敲门砖 036
引发共鸣,达到*好的沟通效果 038
话题对了,陌生感就没了 040
引起切感,交往不再难 042
初次见面,赞美要说得准 044
把场面话说到对方心坎里 046
Chapter 3 与人打交道会说场面话
良好的谈吐能够征服人心 050
面对不同人说不同的场面话 052
“出卖”隐私换取和力 055
物往贵处说,人往年轻讲 058
善用场面话打圆场 060
谈话有时候需要示弱 062
谈对方感兴趣的话题 065
人情世故场面话多多益善 066
心里这样想,嘴上那样说 068
善意“假话”,捧人良方 071
交浅不可言深 074
“震天下者*震之于声,导人心者*导之于言。”语言不仅是人类思维的表达方式,更是人类的交际工具。海涅说:“言语之力,大到可以从坟墓唤醒死人,可以把生者活埋,把侏儒变成巨人,把巨人*打垮。”可见,说话对一个人的内在展现是十分重要的。
说话人人都会,但不见得人人会说话。一句话说得好,可以说得人笑;一句话说得不好,可以说得人跳。一句话可能化敌为友,冰释前嫌,化干戈为玉帛;一句 话也可以化友为敌,引发一场争论甚至导致一场战争。所以,你仅仅能说还是不够的,还要会说。这就需要你掌握场面话的技巧。
所谓“场面话”就是能放到“场面”上说的话,是应付交际中各种“场面”的话。处于这个社会当中,每个人都说过或听到过一些“场面话”,场面话似乎隐藏了许多真实的意思,让人误以为真。其实,这些话只是为了应付一些场合或是为自己找一个台阶下而已,没有场面话,场面就不称为场面了。
很多人将“场面话”和空话、应付、虚伪、敷衍划上等号,其实“场面话”是一种谈话技巧,也是人际交往中说话办事的*备技巧之一。这种“场面话”既不是空话,也不是应付,而是在很多场合中人与人沟通的一种手段,是人在这个社会上不得不具备的一种语言能力。在很多场合,面子上的事情总是要过得去的,讲“场面话”的作用就是维护双方的面子。现实社会就是这样,不讲就好像不通人情世故了。
既然说是“场面话”,可想而知,就是在某个“场面”才讲的话,这种话不一定代表一个人内心的真实想法,也不一定合乎事实,但讲出来之后,就算别人明知你“言不由衷”,也会感到高兴。
说场面话表面是为了让对方高兴,其实目的是为了与对方套近乎,套近乎是交际中与陌生人、尊长、上司等沟通情感的有效方式。套近乎的技巧就是在交际双方的经历、志趣、追求、爱好等方面寻找共同点,诱发共同语言,为交际创造一个良好的氛围,进而达到自己的目的。
场面之言是一种*要的应酬,看起来似乎有点虚伪,但很重要!说场面话时切忌讲得太多,点到为止*好,太多了就真的虚伪而且令人肉麻了。而且说场面话时,*好选择事实来发挥,不要无中生有,否则会弄巧成拙。“场面话”可听不可信,对于称赞或恭维的“场面话”,你要保持冷静和客观;对于满口答应的“场面话”,你要保留态度,以免希望越大,失望也越大。总之,“场面话”是一种交际需要,既要能说,还要会说;既要认真听,还要能分辨真假。
当然,说好场面话的本领并非来自天赋,而是需要我们用特有的敏锐洞察力去感悟,需要在生活的每一个片段中不断地搜寻、提炼,把它与自己的生活融会贯通,使之真正为己所用。本书以“场面话”为主题,详细介绍了在不同场合对不同对象的说话方法与技巧,通过大量贴近生活的事例和精炼的要点,讲述了打动人心的说话细节,以便让您的言辞上升到一个新的层次,并在此基础上感受到拥有上佳口才的迷人魅力,希望为您走向辉煌的人生提供*有效的帮助。
编辑
每一个人都是饭局里的一颗棋子,在工作和生活中。我们无时无刻不在以某种方式与“请客吃饭”发生联系。然而,不是所有的饭,都可以“ 乱吃”,也不是所有的“局”,都可以“乱闯”! 对于中国人而言,所谓人脉。所谓圈子。所谓社会关系,所谓资源。
所谓一个人的能量。所谓友谊,所谓生意和交易,*后通通绕不开饭局!因此,如何设局、如何入局是一个循序渐进、稳步经营的过程。
《中国式饭局人脉学》作者郑德明以宏观的视角诠释了“饭局社交” 中的组织和派系,分析了阴谋和利益,同时,又从微观的层面入手,详细地阐释了怎样在不同的饭局中采取不同的交际方法——与陌生人,与老板,与同事,与下属,与客户,与哥们儿……无不涵盖其中。
只要按照书中介绍的方法去做,触类旁通。就可以真正成为同事圈、朋友圈、客户圈乃至整个交际圈中的饭局达人!成功,就是先用《中国式饭局人脉学》知晓人情世故!
目录
*章 饭局经济论——天生饭局*有用
饭局社交——通过饭局形成“圈”
1.是谁将吃饭变成了工作?
2.饭局,也分三六九等
饭局众生相——你是哪种“吃请”族?
1.饭局*不可少的几种人
2.饭局,对你来说意味着什么?
饭局价值——这几种人,你一定要和他们吃一次饭
1.能吃几顿饭,能干多少事?
2.如何才能不被饭局“淹没”?
3.圈内圈外都是客——“圈外人”你请了吗?
*二章 饭局潜规则——吃饭事小,出局事大
请人,请到人,请对人
1.请客的永远是主动
2.请客时,注意强调人情的珍贵性
3.请好平台,你才能上台阶
饭局可以“赶”,买卖不能“急”
1.胃口感觉到饿,欲望便会被勾起来
2.不但要捧月亮,也要捧星星
饭局话题四步走——循序渐进,由浅入深
1.应约初到,客气寒暄无关痛痒
2.餐前闲谈,以“半正式的话题”引入目的
3.吃饭开始,天南海北打开“话匣子”
4.饭饱酒足,蜻蜒点水搭好桥
饭不能乱吃,话更不能乱说
1.别几杯酒下肚就“交底”
2.学会适当地“沉默”一下
3.嘴上留道门,做人莫揭短
4.面对任何诱惑,都要坚守底线
满饭可以吃,满话不能说
1.办不到,也要给出有名无实的“口惠”
2.掌握“模糊表态”,避免与对方短兵相接的交锋
3.可偶尔使用的“反悔计”
细节决定成败,饭局也不例外
1.敬酒时,不能忽略任何一个人
2.这些动作不仅多余,而且*有损形象
3.赠品不要随便拿,当心贪小便宜吃大亏
*三章 “看人下菜碟”——让每一个饭局部发挥出应有的效果
把大人物当——不要只顾闷声吃喝
1.理性认识“怯场”,敬畏还是敌视?
2.先发制人,淡定从容“等”吃饭
3.带着“阿Q精神”上饭桌
别让鱼刺噎着——防备饭局上的“小人”和骗子
1.如何识别“骗子”和“装家”?
2.遇到小人,多劝他吃菜少和他说话
遇到“看不惯”的食客——和气生财,开心吃饭
1.理解与宽容,让自己客客气气吃饭
2.我吃我的,你说你的,但我在听
3.不要瞧不起那些“看起来很俗”的人
面对外宾——千万不要“想当然”
1.过分热情可能“吓到”外国朋友
2.涉外赴宴时,不妨带些小礼物
和朋友吃饭——饭局有价,关系无价
1.坦然对待不同的“口味”
2.关系再铁,也不能变成酒肉朋友糊涂账
3.密并非无间,千万不要“八卦”
遇到陌生人——如何才能不“冷场”
1.和陌生人用餐,就像是打羽毛球
2.学会“没话找话”,灵活自然就桌取材
3.当心!饭后突然升高热度的陌生人
*四章 人在职场漂——不吃算你狠,吃了“逗你玩”
调查篇:吃还是不吃,都蕴含着智慧
1.“职场饭局”到底具备哪些功能?
2.不参加饭局,会给自己带来哪些潜在的危机?
3.如果不能全面退出,又该如何选择?
公关篇:这样的同事,我们都曾经历过
1.难以启齿,那些*尴尬的“突发情况”
2.哭笑不得,新手上路请多关照
修炼篇:你利用饭局,还是被饭局利用?
1.关键点一:注意听出弦外之音
2.关键点二:过度的谦虚并不是一种可取的美德
3.关键点三:被老板邀请吃饭与邀请老板吃饭
4.关键点四:饭桌上的“画饼充饥”
午饭团——你的午饭“吃”好了吗?
1.不入“午饭团”会落单
2.你患有“午饭恐惧症”吗?
3.“午饭团”团长也悲哀?
下午茶——沟通无限的好时机
1.下午茶里的哲学——生活中的人更加真实可信
2.巧用下午茶时光——掌握*手真实材料
商务宴——每一个环节都有*须注意的地方
1.自助餐,选择一口能吃下去的食物
2.充分准备,沟通好才能正式宴请
3.从工作出发,以商务结束
*五章 饭桌有谈资—一吃的文化是交朋友的*武器
历史饭局:从老故事里翻新谈资
1.鱼肠剑——“革命”*人
2.鸿门宴——当不速之客遇见毫无准备的主人
3.青梅煮酒——竞争对手的场面交锋
4.杯酒释兵权——老板和老员工的沟通
城市饭局:当饭局遇上城市特色
1.北京:率性而为的饭局
2.上海:没有无缘无故的饭局
3.广州:饭局是放松的方式
知食分子:趣味横生的饮食文化
1.孔子:食不厌精,脍不厌细
2.道家与药膳:长生不老的传说
3.“茶禅一味”的佛家茶理
*六章 饭局心理学——“吃”透人心好办事
不值得定律——这顿饭,到底值不值得?
1.有动机和目的吗?
2.能满足我们的某种需要吗?
3.能让我们看到期望吗?
晕轮效应——讲究一下档次也在情理之中
1.“门面”做得好,饭才吃得好
2.有了“面子”,还要“撑得起”
3.给自己打造*的“餐桌光环”
因效应:用*印象抢占“局势”
1.宴会现场的*绅士
2.优雅风范是这样练成的
3.“握”住属于你的天地
名片效应——恰到好处地展示你自己
1.发名片?没那么简单!
2.如何同时递上你的“心理名片”?
二八法则——宴请点菜分个主次
1.菜名是次要的,千万不要“望文生义”
2.中庸是*稳妥的“菜局”
3.别奢望每一张嘴都给你打满分
踢猫效应——酒桌上的情绪是可以传染的
1.千杯百盏尽看开头
2.引经据典,做“好气氛”的增添者
3.不喝没关系,但要做“好情绪”的传递者
自己人效应:成为受人喜欢的“自己人”
1.餐桌快速求同术一态度与价值观的类似
2.注意存异——情感上未*都会相悦
*七章 饭局生产力——一个都不能少
前期的铺垫:工欲善其“饭”,*先利其“局”
1.多积累“一饭之恩”
2.多充实你的“吃饭资本”
成事的技巧:规避“抹桌子”的风险
1.有效地用点道德压力
2.读懂宾客心,避免判断失误
局中的博弈:会吃,更要会装
1.装疯:借酒装疯,假痴不颠
2.装牛:给对方信赖感
3.装熊:以退为进,避免争执
后期的追踪:饭局不是“一锤子买卖”
1.当你要离开时,请不要虎头蛇尾
2.无功也要“受禄”,白吃的人毕*不多
3.记得那些请我们吃饭的人,并感恩
局外的哲学:激活“饭局情商”
1.当众向你的对手举杯
2.好吃的东西不能独吞
3.锋芒太露,容易“没饭吃”
4.误会就像过夜的饭,越久越难闻
在线试读
小李是一个性格比较内向的女孩,刚上班,和同事的关系还不错,但是也不会*近。周六、周日的时候有的同事会互相约着去逛街,她却愿意宅在家里听听歌,看看电影。
上 的时候,领导说这周会找个时间聚餐,小李其实不太想参加,聚餐的人毕*都是同事,又不是朋友。结果吃饭的时候,领导说点个鱼吧,小李那天*想吃松鼠 桂鱼,但是她的快嘴同事小丁立即就说“水煮鱼”,小李心想,凭什么听小丁的,于是就当场反对,提议吃松鼠桂鱼。
结果,同事们也分成了两拨,闹得挺僵,直到领导的脸色不好看了,小李*后认同了水煮鱼的提议。但是一直对小丁心存芥蒂,两个人的关系从这次聚餐开始就不那么愉快了。
作为新人,*次聚餐也是同事们从*私人的角度观察你的绝好机会。
他们都期望从你的一颦一笑、一举一动中了解在“职业外套”下的你的真实样子,弄不好会让他们大跌眼镜,而利用好了则会让他们喜出望外。后一种情况不但会让他们加深对你之前的认识,而且还会在个人层面上更愿意接纳你。
位置的选择即使在这样放松的场合,依然有一些默认的规矩。*一般的规律是左侧为上座。即便西方人也会认为坐在右边的人用左手袭击他的可能性较低,所以这个座位是留给你*需要保护的上司的。
如果可能的话,你可以考虑守住靠门口的座位,因为这个位置通常还是上菜的通道。当然不要先一屁股坐下,但可以把包或外衣放到椅子上,然后先请大家到里面就座。让同事们背后朝向墙壁不仅会让人更放松,也会让你显得更谦逊和周到。
用头致意头部的微小动作也可以展露我们的内心,在运动空间狭小的餐桌上善用则大有裨益。如果你不希望新同事认为你的眼睛长在额头上,那么请略略收起你的下 巴,但也不要埋头在盘子上,因为那是不满或不自信的表现;如果你希望让对方感觉你对他们所说的感兴趣或者让自己显得更切,请略略侧着头倾听。在非正式场 合这个姿势还可以凸显女性的美丽。
在餐桌上,你的新同事们难免会聊一些公司或部门的八卦或掌故,甚至在宽松的气氛中会抱怨或讽刺公司的制度或领导,此时*安全的反应就是轻轻点头(*要时也可以带上中性的微笑)。放心,这样的点头不一定意味着赞同。
善用眼神眼神有多重要?据说,当露华浓把广告中女模特的瞳孔放大后,唇膏的销量上升了45%。我们也是通过眼神来判断别人是否真诚并值得信任,所以我们很难对戴墨镜的人吐露心声。
虽 然主动控制瞳孔的大小几乎不太可能,但是你可以通过调整你的心态,比如充分调动起内心对听者的好奇来起到类似的效果。*在介绍自己的过程中用眼神扫过每 一个人脸庞,把目光投在对方的小三角区,即鼻子至唇部之间为佳,但是切忌死盯着某一个人。扫描完毕后,可以把焦点设定在人群的中部,并不时照顾一下前后左 右的人。
展露微笑微笑是全世界通行的语言,连先天失明的盲人都会在喜悦的时候展露灿烂的微笑,而且这是几乎不会被误解的肢体语言,只要是发自内心且非不合时宜的几乎都会得到肯定的回馈。
我们常说:“我们也许不能改变自己的容貌,但是可以经常微笑。”微笑会让你显得更加美丽而有和力。
但是在这方面每个人都是天生的测谎专家,你知道该如何分辨真笑和假笑吗?研究表明,当人发自内心地微笑时,他的嘴部肌肉会产生运动,眼睛上挤,眉毛微微下弯;但假笑时,眼睛的运动则*微小。
所以介绍你自己之前,请看看手机里存的笑话,或者想象一下生活中美好的瞬间,然后带着你的笑容开始。这样做还可以缓解忐忑的心情呢。
打开自己双臂交叉在前胸,无论在任何文化中都是一种明显的自我保护暗示,这一姿势向别人暗示着自己的不确定和安全感的缺乏——“他出不来,你也进不去”。
这样的防御性姿势也会引发别人的戒备心理,这显然不会让你受欢迎。
当然双手交叉在背后会显得比较有信心和气势,不过在东方文化中这种领导讲话式的姿势显得有些不够谦虚谨慎。
比较而言,开放性的肢体语言比较放松,容易让人近,例如双臂自然下垂或者在适当的时候微屈前臂伸出双手,有谁会拒绝一个接纳的怀抱呢?不过,如果你实在是觉得开放的姿势比较困难,不妨双手交叉在腰以下,不过即使天再冷也不要搓来搓去,那是不自信的表现。
权力的双手握手在一开始就是彼此位置和权力的*交待。握手时,如果你的手掌掌心向上,意味着你愿意服从对方,这姿势肯定会讨领导喜欢;而掌心向下的姿势 比较适合与下级握手时使用,能够迅速树立你的威信;平级的同事之间,手掌垂直的握手方式*有切平等的感觉。握手的奥秘还在于与对方使用相同的力度,当然 对于个别“大力水手”的铁腕则不*如此。
同时,手掌的干燥和温暖也很重要。一个小窍门是,开会前想象你的手掌捧着一个暖炉,即可以让你的掌心温度提高3~4度。切记,不要为了凸显女性的温柔而伸出绵软无力的纤纤玉手,在职场这可是缺乏信心和能力的信号。
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内容介绍
饭局是一个社交的舞台,你不可能在这个舞台上吸引每个人,只需要去吸引适合你的人,能帮助你的人,也就是你的“贵人”,而不是浪费时间在一些局托、骗子、小人身上!因为我们都是*的,只有引入那些*适合自己的人,才有之后这些人带给你的工作和环境。
那么如何在短暂的饭局里找到你的“贵人”呢?郑德明编著的《中国式饭局读心术》从饭前设局开始,到饭后跟踪,以实例传授你一套饭局的读心阅人术,让所有阅读《中国式饭局读心术》的读者都能在饭局里游刃有余。
学会在饭桌上读懂人心,快速找到你想要的人脉,这样每一场饭局下来,你的社交信用卡才能增值!
每一个人都是饭局里的一颗棋子,在工作和生活中。我们无时无刻不在以某种方式与“请客吃饭”发生联系。然而,不是所有的饭,都可以“乱吃”,也不是所有的“局”,都可以“乱闯”! 对于中国人而言,所谓人脉。所谓圈子。所谓社会关系,所谓资源。
所谓一个人的能量。所谓友谊,所谓生意和交易,*后通通绕不开饭局!因此,如何设局、如何入局是一个循序渐进、稳步经营的过程。
《中国式饭局人脉学》作者郑德明以宏观的视角诠释了“饭局社交”中的组织和派系,分析了阴谋和利益,同时,又从微观的层面入手,详细地阐释了怎样在不同的饭局中采取不同的交际方法——与陌生人,与老板,与同事,与下属,与客户,与哥们儿……无不涵盖其中。
只要按照书中介绍的方法去做,触类旁通。就可以真正成为同事圈、朋友圈、客户圈乃至整个交际圈中的饭局达人!成功,就是先用《中国式饭局人脉学》知晓人情世故!
郑德明编著的《中国式酒局应酬学》范例齐全,语言生动,与时俱进,全面展示了酒局既具有社交功 能,又能联络感情、表达意愿。并教读者酒桌上的应酬之道——巧妙地将社会关系、人际规则、良好祝愿、情友谊彰显于酒中。《中国式酒局应酬学》表述简洁, 范例经典,格式明了,文体丰富,更为读者详解了酒局的来龙去脉,不同场景、情境下祝酒要点及挡酒技巧,以及酒场规则、酒桌生意、如何健康饮酒、如何用酒做 引子谈判等一系列“酒文化”,堪称*全面的“酒文化全书”。尤为可贵的是,作者以自己*的视角,将自己对酒场的理解和对人生的启悟都凝练于文字中,为读 者打开崭新蜘心灵视野。它让我们看到在酒场变数面前有很多人无奈、投机和悲悯时,也为我们提供一种高雅、健康、自然而又不悖洒场规则的理想酒场形式。愿您 凭借本书,在觥筹交错之际,行令谈笑间翻云覆雨,扭转乾坤。
作者介绍
郑德明,祖籍黑龙江,经济管理学硕士。于饭桌应酬之中。渐渐发现“席间觥筹交错有乾坤, 桌上言转心动舞太极”。现为经济师、金融家、投资顾问,对管理思维与沟通、*化企业管理实践及改革、经济管理社会责任等课题有深入研究,并为政 府机构提供咨询服务。培养出115位经理,先后涉足广告传媒、信息产业、销售产业。
《9c礼仪套装》:五载寒窗,不如一张好口才;十年寒窗,不如一个好场面。 在这个信息爆炸、人际交往日益频繁的时代,精准、得体的沟通能力已成为个人发展和事业成功的关键要素。 Whether it's a casual chat, a formal meeting, or an important banquet, mastering the art of conversation and social etiquette can help you navigate complex situations with confidence and grace, leaving a lasting positive impression. The "9c礼仪套装" (9c Etiquette Set), a comprehensive collection of five meticulously curated books, aims to equip you with the essential skills to excel in various social scenarios. This set delves into the nuances of Chinese social customs and communication, offering practical strategies and actionable advice to help you build stronger relationships, achieve your goals, and avoid potential pitfalls. This set is designed for individuals who recognize the immense value of effective communication and social intelligence. It caters to young professionals seeking to climb the career ladder, entrepreneurs aiming to expand their business networks, students preparing for the complexities of the working world, and anyone who desires to enhance their personal relationships and social standing. The "9c礼仪套装" understands that in the fast-paced modern world, time is a precious commodity. Therefore, each book within this collection is designed to be concise, practical, and directly applicable, offering immediate benefits without requiring extensive theoretical study. The "9c礼仪套装" comprises five distinct yet complementary volumes, each focusing on a crucial aspect of social interaction: 1. 中国式场面话大全 (The Complete Guide to Chinese Social Conversation): This book is your indispensable companion for navigating the intricate landscape of Chinese social discourse. It recognizes that in Chinese culture, "场面话" (chǎngmiàn huà), or conversation for the occasion, is not merely idle chatter but a sophisticated tool for building rapport, demonstrating respect, and subtly conveying intentions. This volume demystifies the art of saying the right thing at the right time, providing a comprehensive lexicon of phrases and expressions suitable for a wide range of social gatherings. You will learn how to: Master greetings and initial icebreakers: From polite inquiries about family and work to more nuanced expressions of goodwill, this section ensures you make a favorable first impression. Engage in small talk effectively: Discover how to discuss common topics like weather, current events, and hobbies without appearing intrusive or boring. The book provides sample dialogues and strategies for keeping conversations flowing. Offer sincere compliments and acknowledgments: Learn to express genuine appreciation for achievements, efforts, and contributions in a way that is both sincere and culturally appropriate. Handle sensitive topics with tact and discretion: This section offers guidance on how to gracefully steer clear of potentially awkward subjects or address them with politeness and respect. Express congratulations and condolences appropriately: Understand the specific phrases and gestures that convey empathy and celebration in different social contexts. Develop persuasive language skills for informal settings: Learn how to subtly influence opinions and build consensus through polite and well-chosen words. Understand the importance of context and tone: The book emphasizes that the effectiveness of "场面话" lies not only in the words themselves but also in how they are delivered, considering the audience, the occasion, and the relationship dynamics. This book is more than just a phrasebook; it's a cultural guide that unlocks the unspoken rules of social interaction in China, empowering you to communicate with confidence and build meaningful connections. 2. 学会应酬半生不愁 (Mastering Social Etiquette for a Worry-Free Life): "应酬" (yīngchou), or social engagements and networking, is an integral part of both personal and professional life. This book provides a practical framework for navigating these often-complex situations, transforming them from potential sources of anxiety into opportunities for growth and connection. It emphasizes that "应酬" is not about being overly solicitous or insincere, but about understanding the subtle art of reciprocity and mutual benefit. Key areas covered include: The fundamental principles of effective "应酬": This section outlines the core values and strategies that underpin successful social engagement, such as sincerity, preparedness, and genuine interest. Pre-event preparation: Learn how to research attendees, understand the purpose of the gathering, and set personal objectives to maximize your participation. Navigating different types of "应酬": Whether it's a business dinner, a formal reception, a casual networking event, or a family gathering, this book offers tailored advice for each scenario. Building and maintaining professional relationships: Discover strategies for initiating contact, fostering rapport, and nurturing long-term connections that can benefit your career. The art of giving and receiving favors: Understand the etiquette surrounding offers of help and assistance, ensuring that reciprocity is balanced and appreciated. Managing expectations and boundaries: Learn to politely decline invitations or requests that do not align with your interests or capacity, without causing offense. The importance of follow-up and reinforcement: This section guides you on how to maintain connections after an event, ensuring that the relationships you've built remain strong. "学会应酬半生不愁" empowers you to approach social engagements with a clear understanding of their purpose and a strategic mindset, enabling you to build a robust network that supports your endeavors throughout life. 3. 饭局读心术 (Mind Reading at the Dinner Table): Dinner parties, whether formal or informal, are often where true personalities emerge and critical decisions are made. This book equips you with the tools to understand the unspoken cues and underlying sentiments of those around you, allowing you to navigate conversations and interactions with greater insight and strategic advantage. It's about observing beyond the surface and decoding the messages that are conveyed through body language, tone of voice, and subtle behavioral patterns. Inside this insightful volume, you will discover: The psychology of dining interactions: Understand how the relaxed atmosphere of a meal can reveal people's true feelings and intentions. Decoding non-verbal communication: Learn to interpret body language, facial expressions, and gestures to gauge emotions, honesty, and underlying thoughts. Listening effectively for deeper meaning: Beyond the words spoken, this section focuses on active listening techniques that help you understand the speaker's underlying messages and perspectives. Identifying unspoken desires and concerns: Learn to recognize subtle hints about what others truly want or are worried about, enabling you to respond more empathetically and strategically. Assessing sincerity and deception: Develop the ability to distinguish genuine interest from polite pretense and identify potential insincerity. Reading group dynamics: Understand how individuals interact within a group setting, identifying leaders, followers, and potential conflicts. Using your observations to your advantage: This section provides practical advice on how to leverage your understanding of others to steer conversations, build stronger connections, and achieve better outcomes. "饭局读心术" transforms you into a more perceptive and insightful social participant, allowing you to engage with greater confidence and a deeper understanding of the people you interact with. 4. 饭局人脉学 (The Science of Building Networks at Dinner Parties): In Chinese culture, "饭局" (fànjú) – dinner parties – are often more than just meals; they are significant platforms for building and nurturing "人脉" (rénmài), or personal networks. This book demystifies the art of leveraging dinner parties to expand your circle of influence and create mutually beneficial relationships. It emphasizes that effective networking is a proactive and strategic process, not a passive occurrence. This guide will teach you to: Identify valuable networking opportunities: Learn to discern which dinner parties and events are most conducive to building meaningful connections. Strategize your attendance: Understand how to select events that align with your goals and identify key individuals you wish to connect with. Initiate conversations and build rapport: Discover effective icebreakers and conversation starters that foster genuine connection. Cultivate relationships through active engagement: Learn how to actively listen, ask insightful questions, and demonstrate genuine interest in others. The art of "adding value" to your network: Understand how to offer assistance, share resources, and contribute to the success of others, thereby strengthening your own position. Follow-up strategies for sustained connections: Learn how to maintain contact and nurture relationships beyond the initial meeting, turning acquaintances into trusted allies. Leveraging existing connections to expand your network: Discover how to ask for introductions and recommendations from people you already know. "饭局人脉学" provides you with a systematic approach to networking, empowering you to transform social gatherings into powerful engines for personal and professional growth. 5. 酒局应 (Navigating Drinking Gatherings with Grace and Savvy): "酒局" (jiǔjú), or drinking gatherings, are a common feature of Chinese social and business life, often serving as a relaxed yet potent arena for forging bonds and making important connections. However, navigating these events requires a specific set of skills to ensure you maintain your composure, make wise decisions, and avoid unintended consequences. This book provides comprehensive guidance on how to participate in "酒局" with confidence, respect, and strategic awareness. This practical guide will equip you with the knowledge to: Understand the cultural significance of "酒局": Learn the unwritten rules and expectations associated with drinking gatherings in different social and professional contexts. The etiquette of toasting and drinking: Master the art of offering toasts, accepting drinks, and responding to invitations to drink in a manner that is both polite and appropriate. Pace yourself and manage your alcohol intake: Discover strategies for enjoying yourself without overindulging, ensuring you remain clear-headed and in control. Recognize and respond to pressure to drink: Learn how to politely decline drinks or suggest alternatives when you are unable or unwilling to drink excessively. Observe and interpret subtle social cues during "酒局": Understand how conversations and interactions unfold in a drinking setting and how to gauge the mood and intentions of others. Build rapport and strengthen relationships through "酒局": Learn how to use the relaxed atmosphere to foster camaraderie and deepen connections with others. Handle potential awkward or challenging situations gracefully: This section offers advice on how to address unexpected issues or disagreements that may arise during a "酒局." The importance of responsible behavior and follow-through: Understand how your conduct at a "酒局" can impact your reputation and how to ensure your actions are consistent with your intentions. "酒局应" is your essential guide to navigating drinking gatherings with poise and intelligence, ensuring that these occasions contribute positively to your social and professional life. The "9c礼仪套装" is more than just a collection of books; it's an investment in your social capital and personal growth. By mastering the principles and techniques presented within these five volumes, you will gain the confidence to engage with any social situation, build a robust network of genuine connections, and navigate the complexities of life with grace, effectiveness, and a profound sense of well-being. Let this set be your key to unlocking a more connected, fulfilling, and successful future.